A manager who does not understand their own patterns will usually lead on autopilot. Under pressure, that might mean becoming overly controlling, avoiding conflict, over-explaining, or making rushed decisions to relieve discomfort.

Leadership is something we talk about a lot, but most people miss the point. It often gets tied to job titles, authority, or how long you’ve been in a role. But the people I work with are already in those positions. You have got to where you are because of your expertise and talent. Everything on paper indicates that you are doing well. On paper, you’re doing well. But in practice, something doesn’t feel quite right. You start to second-guess yourself. You hold back in conver